seeker77 Wrote:i dont even dare put my finger in . and i only want someone to do it to me so its kinda forced , if not then i wont dare . is it normal ?
That may be because you also have a fantasy of being forced into submission, or forced into having anal sex. Actually being forced is not really so much fun, as it could be "rape". Nothing good comes out of a rape.
In the best experience you would be in control of what goes into your back passage. If you're finding it hard to put anything bigger than a finger, then imagine what it would be like to have three fingers all at once.
No, I think you need to take all the time you need to feel comfortable about penetration and if it's a little painful, at first, you need to take control of how, how much and when anyone penetrates you.
I've found that experimenting with things first was one way of knowing that I'd be comfortable enough with it, but if you do that, make sure that it's not something that's going to stay stuck in your backside. The emergency wards of hospitals have seen many a strange case of men with odd objects up their rectums. Sometimes, they have suggested very delicate and hurtful proceedures to get the objects out. It's no legend.
Try anything you want but think about safety first (and lube is the key word here anyway!).
Take care, Seeker.