I know I'm bisexual but is it possible I'm gay?

[Rutstuck]

Im 23 and I've come to the conclusion I'm bisexual. I do get turned on by watching straight porn and I've always been into girls I had a girlfriend for five years who I enjoyed having sex with.
I noticed that gay porn turns me on way more than straight porn I just get a much more harder erection the same goes for sexual thoughts I only get turned on by gay thoughts and when I think of women I dont get hard or anything. I've also had sex with men and really enjoyed it but one guy tried to kiss me and I just couldn't do it. But when it comes to sex with women I get turned on so easily but I can't look at photos or anything and get turned on I have to be there with them and when I can confirm that I know they want to have sex with me I get turned on even more but if a guy wouldn't want to have sex with me I could care less.

Also I do catch myself staring at men's crotches and butts but then I quickly look away im afraid that they might catch me the same goes for women. I do know that Ive never been able to see myself with a man I'd rather be romantically involved with women.

Why do I get turned on more by gay thoughts and gay porn more than thinking and looking at women? These actions constantly lead me to believe I might be gay but I just don't see how if if never wanted to be with a man is it possible that i could want that and I just don't know it? I find that hard to be true but I would really like to hear your thoughts on this. Thank you

[cloud999]

If you look at male and female bodies, you will notice that, save for a few parts, our bodies are surprisingly similar. Two arms, two legs, two nipples, one set of genitalia, one head.

Humans are attracted to that general set of traits present in both genders. It's why we're turned on by humans and not, say, fish. Some people are more heavily attracted to one of the sexual variations, and so pursue primarily that gender. Some are repulsed by a certain gender.

Me? I really, really like breasts and dick. Which means, after the weirdness factor, I'm ideally attracted to hermaphrodites. Which I am. But those are very rare, so I tend to prefer guys with big pecs, or women with aggressive attitudes.

Does your situation make you straight, gay, or bi? Self-identification is a matter of psychology more than sexual attraction. I know gays who enjoy lesbian porn, and I know straights who prefer getting their blowjobs from men.

If you find that your attraction to men is stronger then your attraction to women, perhaps you will eventually settle down with a man and identify as gay. Perhaps you will continue to identify as bi. Perhaps you will find a woman and identify as straight.

Me? I hope to one day live in a world where your sexual identity doesn't matter. When people ask, I say I'm attracted to whomever I find sexy. That's been enough for my lovers of both genders.

[Robbie]

"I'll fuck anything that walks"-Eminem

[Robbie]

I think I understand because I am bisexual too and sometimes it can be frustrating.
People say "Bi now gay later", and for me its sort of coming true lol. When it comes to sex I don't even think about women anymore.
So maybe you're gay but you want to have that hope of still being able to have sex with women..like me lol

[LateBloomer]

I think I understand because I am bisexual too and sometimes it can be frustrating.
People say "Bi now gay later", and for me its sort of coming true lol. When it comes to sex I don't even think about women anymore.
So maybe you're gay but you want to have that hope of still being able to have sex with women..like me lol

I've written elsewhere about my problem with labeling myself as bi-.

It's not an accurate label, simply convenient.

The way it feels to me is like this: I can get turned on by specific type of female body and a specific type of male body. If I'm turned on, well, I'm turned on.

But in terms of relationships, I've found as I get older, women drive me NUTS. Yes, there might be one or two who I think are really cool AND I just happen to be attracted to them, but they are few and far between.

Right now (I always reserve the right to change my mind...) I'll take a well adjusted gay guy over a smokin hot spoiled bitch.

Your mileage may vary.

[Rutstuck]

I'm not worried about having hope of having sex with women because I KNOW I definitely can and I love it! But I'm just concerned that when I think of something sexual about men I get turned on very easily with no problem but with straight thoughts I just can't get hard or excited but it's totally different when it comes to the act of sex I'm fully turned-on when I know I'm about to have sex with a women I find sexually attractive. The same goes for porn so I'm wondering if that means anything.

[nomadicgay]

Nothing wrong with being bi ! just enjoy your sexuality bro!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

According to some researches the majority of us are bisexual to one degree or another. I tend to side with those researchers.

Why do I get turned on more by gay thoughts and gay porn more than thinking and looking at women?

Unknown. The never-ending search for the Gay Gene has revealed a lot of things about human sexuality, but it has yet to uncover everything.

Those researches have a sliding scale, where people are 'more straight than gay' or 'more gay than straight' meaning they are not 50/50 mix. You could be bi with a slightly stronger gay leaning.

Most (not all) bisexuals will identify with being 'straight' or 'gay' depending on who they are with currently. This is largely due to acceptance by both hetero and homo 'cultures'. Both fail to accept bisexuals 100% without conditions.

Bisexual can also be a 'stepping stone' from hetero to homo. It is easier in many ways to come to grips of being 'merely' bisexual, instead of feeling a whole commitment to 'I am gay'. Being bi is usually more tolerated in straight society more than being gay.

Phelps and company don't carry signs that read 'God Hates Bi's'.....

I do not know you, I can't see into your head, and unfortunately my crystal ball is broken. Even if I could see into your head, it is not up to me to distinguish for you what and who you are.

That label you will have to decide for yourself, and I suspect that that label will change over time. That is perfectly OK and 'normal', we all change our views on who and what we are as time progresses.

[Rutstuck]

Bowenn arrow you say you suspect that the bi level will change overtime and I know it's hard to determine my future but is that your way of saying that I might change to be full on homosexual?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Bowenn arrow you say you suspect that the bi level will change overtime and I know it's hard to determine my future but is that your way of saying that I might change to be full on homosexual?

No, I don't think you will become 'full' homosexual.

Instead I believe you will meet a nice guy who is gay that you will really care for and since you will be with him only will 'identify' as gay just to keep everyone from asking lots of question.

OR you will find a nice gal who is straight you will really care for and since you will be with her only, you will identify as 'straight' just to keep everyone from asking a lot of questions.

You will adopt these labels, and even to a point believe them. The longer you are in that relationship the more you will identify yourself to that situation.