I'm whatever I want to be. Sometimes I'm outgoing, inviting. Other Times I want space. It either with me.
Mick
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im abit shy quiert but i like peple as well if it is nice peple
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It seems like many gay people on here are Introverted (me including), this is quite remarkable considering gay people are portrayed by the media as extremely Extroverted divas with attitude issues.
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I guess extroverted and introverted are like the Kinsey report about being straight and gay. You could fall anywhere in between the two opposites, somewhere in that bracket. Maybe the brazen gays are the ones who've had to fight the hardest to overcome their hatred of being gay? Or who've actually managed to come to terms with being invisible and are now proud and out. It's a good thing there are gays of every possible introversion and extroversion, just like among straights. It's called diversity.
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am I right in thinking - Introvert and extrovert seem to just be two pigeon holes for measuring confidence...
it's logical to think that most people feel fairly similar levels of social anxiety, but deal with them in different ways - tackling them head on or just waiting until we're ready. I don't like the idea of one being better than the other, or categorising people; there is normally a lot of logic and intelligent thought invested in these psychological profiles, but to summise human existance and personality into less than 16 categories is almost depressing.
The same debate crops up in music - what genre is this? what category? it's an odd human compulsion, we seemingly can't deal with ambiguity.
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Haha .From my study of psychology I think it is obvious I'm introverted.
But my theory is introversion consists of two parts: sensitivity and inhibition. Some people are more sensitive in emotion, taste and things than others. But only if one inhibits a lot of the thoughts that he/she would become introverted. (Like thinking very often, 'oh how can I think like that', 'how can i have this kind of feeling' or 'I'm really abnormal' ) A sensitive person can be extroverted if he or she finds ways to express himself/herself in a socially acceptable way or find a group that he or she feels safe.
Grouping is important. So find safer people to hang around with, people who cherish you, who share similar interest and identity.
For me, I am fine with public speaking, everybody just listens to me. but when i'm talking to people one on one or in a group, i often don't know what to talk about. I was a extroverted kid when I was young but since school I think my inhibition went right up and until now.
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