I've been dating for my boyfriend for about 5 months now, he's 18 an I'm 19. When we met he was a virgin, 5 months later we have a healthy sexual relationship. Recently he's told me he's thought about a three way or even him and another guy one on one, when he told me this it killed me every time I think about it I get a sick feeling I understand he wants to see what it's like with someone else but I don't like it. He's told me it doesn't matter if we do it or not but I know he really wants it. I really don't know what to do I'm afraid if I do do the three way he'll just wanna do the one on one with a guy and I know I can't let that happen, so should I do the three way and see how it goes? or just say no way to any of it?
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I'm sorry to hear your boyfriend wants to live out his sexual fantasy, if this was a straight relationship and a man told his girlfriend he wanted to do a threesome I can imagine how long that relationship would last, painful as it may sound I think you would be better off without him. Other than that put your foot down and tell him to grow up...!
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I think this is unaccaptable. I would never ever never share my boyfriend with anybody. And if he told me he wanted to have a three way, he would have my fist in his face! I am sorry for reacting like this, but this kind of a thing makes me go nuts.
And im sorry to say this but I think if he really loved you, he wouldnt wanted to have somebody else in your bed.
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As you said, he was vergin we u met and he probably just want to experience sex with other people. I'm not surprised since at your and his age is pretty common. I und how this is painfull for you and the way you feel about him but I would also suggest to move on because his request probably won't be a one-off. Wish u all the best
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I would say no, and tell him that I was expecting monogamy.
Of course I make it clear way back at the start of the relationship that it is implied monogamy.
Never ever, ever do something that 'hurts' you in a relationship for the sake of the other. This always plants seeds of resentment which turn into anger.
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Hello,
I would say to sit down and discuss... The thing is in threeways sometimes someone gets left out... You both need to agree on things that are aceptable and remember to not get jelous... It can be quite nice to see your boyfriend being pleasured by another guy and whatnot sex to be honest is sex and when u do it with him thats love... Just brace yourself for open relationship status possibly
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Well....remember that there are many different ways to look at any given situation and I have had many three ways in my life and it has had only a positive effect on me. For one thing...when forced to confront insecurities you have a chance to overcome them (which is EXTREMELY FREEING)...and when you take "ownership" out of love you can actually love much deeper and even love unconditionally which is a real gift to yourself and your partner.
Of course...each person is difefrent and has to decide for themselves what is right for them and hopefully respect themselves but I thought I would give you an alternative POV. Good luck with whatever decision you make!
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I'd say the best you can do is talk to him about how you're feeling about the whole thing, just be honest. Maybe he will be understanding, maybe things will change in your head too.
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