12-07-2007, 10:11 PM
hhhmmmm, not sure how antagonistic I feel today to get mixed up in this....
(Like that has ever stopped me...ok)
The point Spotysocks was eluding to is that those of you still in the closet throw around all kinds prejudices. Most of these come from fear that others will recognize YOU in the openness or actions of others. There are all kinds of different people out there in both worlds (gay and straight), how often do you feel threatened by some goth dude or blonde Paris Hilton look alike or football fan? At the most it's just a quick laugh and then on back to your life.
This whole I'm so masculine and all those effiminate or muscled or whatever..boys is a reflection of your own fears. If it wasn't it wouldn't bother you. YOU are not THEM, so how they act should have nothing to do with you.. unless of course you're worried others will see something IN YOU reflected in them.
Try as you might to distance yourself or pretend you're better or "not one of THOSE fags", to straight people every time you get on your knees you're a big homo. End of story. The rest is just semantics.
You are who you are, you act how you act, as do others. Prejudices only show fear and end up hurting others based on our own inadequacies. You have the right to be attracted to whomever you want, but pointing fingers at others to "save" yourself or somehow make yourself better is worse than all the mincing, touching queens put together in my opinion. (For what it's worth).
At the very least they have had the courage and honesty to do what you yourselves have not yet managed. To stand up and be open and honest about who they really are regardless of what others may think about them. If for nothing else they should be respected for that.
(Like that has ever stopped me...ok)
The point Spotysocks was eluding to is that those of you still in the closet throw around all kinds prejudices. Most of these come from fear that others will recognize YOU in the openness or actions of others. There are all kinds of different people out there in both worlds (gay and straight), how often do you feel threatened by some goth dude or blonde Paris Hilton look alike or football fan? At the most it's just a quick laugh and then on back to your life.
This whole I'm so masculine and all those effiminate or muscled or whatever..boys is a reflection of your own fears. If it wasn't it wouldn't bother you. YOU are not THEM, so how they act should have nothing to do with you.. unless of course you're worried others will see something IN YOU reflected in them.
Try as you might to distance yourself or pretend you're better or "not one of THOSE fags", to straight people every time you get on your knees you're a big homo. End of story. The rest is just semantics.
You are who you are, you act how you act, as do others. Prejudices only show fear and end up hurting others based on our own inadequacies. You have the right to be attracted to whomever you want, but pointing fingers at others to "save" yourself or somehow make yourself better is worse than all the mincing, touching queens put together in my opinion. (For what it's worth).
At the very least they have had the courage and honesty to do what you yourselves have not yet managed. To stand up and be open and honest about who they really are regardless of what others may think about them. If for nothing else they should be respected for that.