How are you today?

[Mrmatty376]

Hi Matty,

what about if you read a post like this:

Hi,
I need your advice, I really don't know what to do. I have this friend, let's call him M. He is my best friend, he always has been.
Some time ago he told me he was leaving me and going abroad. I was devastated. I mean we had so many plans together.
I'd tried to talk him out of it, but he was persistent. I couldn't imagine my days without him and being all alone. I had found this girl, she is nice, but I feel really bad because from then on M. is pulling away. I really don't understand it.
The last night before he left was beautiful.
But the longer he is there the stranger he is. I used to invite him to spent time with me and my gf, but he refused. I used to tell him what we did with my gf, but he always acted strange, like I was hurting him, so I stopped. I am really not sure how to talk to him anymore. It seems that what ever I say, I am hurting him.
What should I do?

You know Matty, I can be totally wrong. Just consider it

Well, first of all, if it was him, I'd laugh cause he totally doesn't talk like that and I'd yell at him for using drugs when I tell him not to.
We've only been close friends for about 3 years. I've known him before that, but he was just another guy in the group of people I used to know. We had a buffer of one year before I left. I was leaving anyways. it was either here or san francisco. SF would have been easier, yes, but I admit I didn't think this through. But we did a ton of things and inevitably ran out of things to do which lead to us killing time by killing virtual russian commies. He never said anything about me leaving. Not a word. But I know he didn't want me to leave. He didn't start talking to her till 2 months after I left. He was chasing after 3 other girls but apparently they didnt work out. He told me about them, but he hesitated on the 4th. I was gone for 6 months, I came back and she was there, and that was the only month he asked for me to spend time with them. And even then I had no idea what they did. I'd ask if he'd want to do something but he'd just say, "cant, going out with my gf." The previous 6 months he didn't say anythign about her either. Then again, I didn't talk to him for a month after he told me he was going out with her... I admit to that wrong. But there's still no reason why he'd keep anything else from me. I don't know. Maybe it's fate. Maybe it was a temporary thing. it's kind of cruel though if you put it that way. I don't know. I really don't want to approach him with this. I'm in no mindset to accept "Oh, well i tend to ditch people" as an answer. If I don't mean anything to him, then why bother. I've given everything to stay friends with him, trying to make up for the initial mistake that started this all; leaving.