How are you today?

[Jay]

thanks Jay, I asked the question because my aunt told me that my grandmother should be my top priority:confused: but I always thought you put yourself first. actually most of the older people in my family thought I was going to live here forever to take care of my grandmother but she's not my responsibility, she can still take care of herself and its screwed up to just throw her on me. its their own freakin mother.

I understand elders are important and should be respected in our lives. Particularly our parents. But we need to know how to divide and balance our priorities. Don't neglect our lives for them. But don't neglect them either.

I assume your aunt is your grandmother's daughter? If she is, shouldn't (most) of the responsibility to take care of your grandmother goes to her instead of you? You are his grandson. She's her daughter.