How are you today?

[Jay]

Tomorrow a family will come to my house for 'asking ceremony'. 'Asking Ceremony' is an old wedding custom where a family (of a potential bridegroom) will come to check my sister as a potential bride. The family will come to see and check out my sister.

My parents do not practice this old wedding custom but they can't decline this family to come to our house to see my sister as it would be rude to say no.

My parents said my sister will decide herself to accept or decline the potential bridegroom. They will not interfere with her decision as this is her future. As my mom said, "This is not a game."

I honestly become defensive when I heard a guy wants to come to our house to check my sister. I asked my mom quite a lot of questions, "What does he do? Where does he come from? etc."

My mom said it was her big sister who told the guy's family about my sister. The guy's grandma was the one who really wants to check my sister. Other than that, my parents have no idea about the guy's background. Not even his name. Oh yeah, we know that he is a reporter. That is all.

I can't help to think about the potential bridegroom's finance background and occupation. I don't care about my own guy's finance/job but for my own sister, different story - Wedding cost, supporting children in the future, etc. My sister works as a lecturer (Computer Engineering) for a prestigious university so I think the potential guy needs to be somewhere around her level. Financially in particular. I don't think it's right for the wife to have higher wage than the husband as the husband should be the one who supports his future family. Hmm, do I sound narrow minded?

And my sister is really independent and career type of woman. The guy needs to accept the fact that my sister is not going to be just a housewife.

I jokingly thought of wearing a tight sleeveless white singlet when meeting the guy's family tomorrow. Just to make sure that the guy's family knows that my sister has a buff younger brother that shouldn't be messed with. So please don't dare to screw my sister off.

My relationship with my parents and my sister has been patched up ever since my first surgery. It doesn't matter whether my parents and sister accept my sexuality or not, they are still my parents and sister. I have the responsibility to watch over them.

I hope my sister will find a guy that she really likes and be happy with. Amen.