09-29-2012, 09:53 AM
It may not be considered cheating to some certain degree, but it's easy to see that it can become neglectful if it contributes to the closing of the communication and mutuality in the relationship. On the surface, it's easy to explain it away as exploration, curiosity, titillation, etc, etc...but we're talking about the impact of relationshipping. So if it enhances that process I say it's good, if it detracts from it I say bad. I'd end with admitting the lines between the good and the bad might blurr and switch back and forth and this would be a sign of the natural process I'm pointing out AND a gauge for discerning the degree of impact in expressing health in relationshipping. Hope you'll expect interest in better, stronger communication if the relationship is to survive and if there is resistance there it will be the perfect guide for deciding what is worth enduring and what might be a likely waste of life!
Life's too short to miss an opportunity to show your love and affection!