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[Wade]

Okay, I need some advice but it's not big enough for a thread so I'll just write here...

One of my closest friends just woke me up (I was sleeping so nicely :c ) and asked me about the party I'm going to host in a few weeks. He recently broke up with his girlfriend, who's also a friend of mine and things are kind of bad between them. He's basically asking me not to invite her on the grounds that he and I have known each other a lot longer. About 5 times longer to be presice.

My natural reaction is to think "well he should be mature enough to handle it. both of them are my friends and their break-up shouldn't force me to fucking choose" but ugh, it's difficult. I hate this kind of drama and I momentarily hate the ones who cause it and make it seem like a big deal. I'm tempted to invite both of them and just go "if you can't handle the other one being there, then don't fucking show up". What would you do in this situation? I feel silly for even bringing up such a ridiculous dilemma. His ex and I aren't very close friends, but we do spend time together. On one hand every inch of my body resists his idea as it goes against all my "fuck teenage drama" principles, but on the other hand he is one of my very closest friends and it'd feel strange to "prioritize" a less close friend over him... thoughts?

I would do exactly what you want to do: invite them both and be honest about it. It's not fair that he's making you choose, and despite whatever issues he has with his ex, it's inconsiderate of him to drag you into it. I never play those games with people. Just think of the future: If you don't invite her, imagine what it's going to be like the next time you meet.

Your friend may be upset that you're not playing favorites, but if he's truly your friend, he'll get over it and hopefully realize that he should not be putting you in such a position. And at least you'll be able to sleep at night knowing you did the right thing.