How are you today?

[archubbycub]

Archubbycub, for you (still got quoting issues)

A true story
When I was dealing with welfare, regards my foster son, I became aware of a youngester in the same home, whose background was thus:-

Removed from parents, father sexually abusive (I'm in no way implying anything whatsoever by this please)

Father could only see the lad under supervision

Invarably, the arrangements broke down, and the lad would vent his frustration by hitting holes through doors, smashing his fist through window panes and banging his forehead repeatedly on the wall.

The lad hated what his father had done to him, but loved him non the less.

The point being, The ties that bind biologicals together can never be broken. Seems to me your son has been turned through malicous talk. Trust me when I say, that pidgeon will go home to roost with a vengance.

Take it from whence it came. It's not his fault right now. Keep the door open, communicate, let him know you love him. unconditionally.

The day will come when his eyes will open, and when that happens, he'll turn on those that have set you up as the monster.

Oh how he will turn.....

Just don't play the revenge / hate game through him, be the bigger one here.

Tough it out.

My heartfelt support
Trial by error

Oh believe me, I know who is fueling his fire right now, and it's not just my ex wife. My dad, before he passed away, confirmed all of this for me. And I in know way have tried to "use" my kids as a means of revenge (unlike others who will remain nameless *cough*). And I will admit I was furiating mad at first, but I'm more hurt than anything now. My BF keeps tellin me the same thing. That one day both of my sons' eyes will open up to the truth and will come back around. But it's really hard for me to see past the immediate present. I live both of my boys, and never in all my life meant to hurt them. It was never my intention for them to find out the real reason their mother and I got divorced until both of them were ready for it. But that is in the past now and I have to doy best to pick up the pieces and move forward.