06-28-2013, 08:33 PM
We talked. Not argued but talked. And I told him that I do love him, and that I want to work this out, and how hurt I am right now. He apologized and said he loved me and he wanted to work it out as well. He told me again that the Skype thing was the only thing that happened and that this was the first and only time he ever did it.
When I asked him why he said that he really didn't know. That they just got to talking and the other guy started taking his clothes off and that he asked my BF to do the same. I told my BF that it should have ended when he started taking the other guy started taking his clothes off. I also told him that indidnt mind him TALKING to other guys, or even innocently flirting with someone, but what he did crossed the line.
I asked him if it was something I did or didn't do that caused this and he said it wasn't. And I told him that I don't give my trust easily and that I won't be someone's second best. He told me that he understood and that he never meant to make me feel that way.
I asked him what would he have done if I had been looking on his phone for some reason and happened upon the record of it in his Skype logs. He said there wouldn't be anything he could do but own up to it. And I told him again that I love him, but that if I found out there was anything more than just Skypeing or if something like this happens again I will call his mom and I will tell her to come get him and take him back with her and I will tell her the reason why. And he said he couldn't blame me if I did.
I ended it by telling him again that I do love him and that I do want to work on this relationship, but that it's going to take both of us working on it and it's going to take some time. We're talking now, just idle chit chat, but it's not really like it normally is when I come home from work. I think now that I've said my peace I just need some time to start letting it go.
When I asked him why he said that he really didn't know. That they just got to talking and the other guy started taking his clothes off and that he asked my BF to do the same. I told my BF that it should have ended when he started taking the other guy started taking his clothes off. I also told him that indidnt mind him TALKING to other guys, or even innocently flirting with someone, but what he did crossed the line.
I asked him if it was something I did or didn't do that caused this and he said it wasn't. And I told him that I don't give my trust easily and that I won't be someone's second best. He told me that he understood and that he never meant to make me feel that way.
I asked him what would he have done if I had been looking on his phone for some reason and happened upon the record of it in his Skype logs. He said there wouldn't be anything he could do but own up to it. And I told him again that I love him, but that if I found out there was anything more than just Skypeing or if something like this happens again I will call his mom and I will tell her to come get him and take him back with her and I will tell her the reason why. And he said he couldn't blame me if I did.
I ended it by telling him again that I do love him and that I do want to work on this relationship, but that it's going to take both of us working on it and it's going to take some time. We're talking now, just idle chit chat, but it's not really like it normally is when I come home from work. I think now that I've said my peace I just need some time to start letting it go.