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[southbiochem]

I didn't have time to post about yesterday because I spent hours in traffic going to the beach for carnaval. Well, I was feeling great. I was confused because a friend of mine who didn't speak to me for a week seemed to make things like they were before I came out to him, and I had slept over at his place. Things really did seem like they hadn't changed.

But he seemed like he was trying to tease me. I mean, come on if you're straight and you know your friend is attracted to men, why the hell would you walk around your house with only a towel on, kind of announcing you were going to take off your clothes before you did, and even pass on a smoke to him with some of your spit on it and mention "this is kind of like kissing me, isn't it?"? I'm in love with him, I was controlling myself so I wouldn't jump on him. Can someone help me??

It's becoming more and more clear to me that he does indeed like men, and that he might have a thing for you.

But I think he's too afraid of letting people know, and he's going out of his way to not say it. I don't think he will be able to outright say he likes you or that he likes men.

The way he behaved after you came out is a clear indication he's not comfortable with admiting his own sexuality. I believe you think the same.

What you can do is get him alone, do things like nothing has happened, laugh, joke and what not, but throw in there "I'm glad we can have a good time again, you were behaving strange last week"

And if it goes by smoothly without him getting upset you have to make a move, meaning you have to tell him "I came out to you because I like you. I'm not trying to make you uncomfortable or upset, but you have to know"

The possible outcomes:

-He can start behaving strange after that and then back to normal, meaning he really can't admit his own feelings.

-He will feel safe enough to come out to you, although most likely will ask you to keep it a secret.

Either way, you have to tell him, because if you don't you're going to be hung up on him and you won't be able to either get what you want or move on. Tell him!