08-05-2014, 03:36 AM
Depending on the kink you may want to rethink that not dating within certain circles.
BDSM type folk just find it easier to stick with folk who already have an interest in kink. Mostly because most folk who have no interest are not going to suddenly grow an interest in kink.
I fail to see why it is so many flat refuse to discuss these matter up front and establish 'this is my tastes, this is what I like' instead of playing the 'I pretend to be that which you want until later, then I'm going to pull out the cat o'nine and handcuffs and surprise you'.
Be what you are, not what you think someone one wants you to be. This way you get what you are looking for.
BDSM type folk just find it easier to stick with folk who already have an interest in kink. Mostly because most folk who have no interest are not going to suddenly grow an interest in kink.
I fail to see why it is so many flat refuse to discuss these matter up front and establish 'this is my tastes, this is what I like' instead of playing the 'I pretend to be that which you want until later, then I'm going to pull out the cat o'nine and handcuffs and surprise you'.
Be what you are, not what you think someone one wants you to be. This way you get what you are looking for.
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