Choosing to live life in solitude
Leo
01-09-2022, 06:03 PM
So here's my response continued....
A lot of people in my life have come and gone, sometimes you grow apart or just have a falling out for various reasons. You said that a lot of people come to you when they need money, well there you go. Some people aren't good friends and that's ok. Those aren't the kind of people you want to surround yourself with anyway.
As far as the people you did try to keep in contact with. Well, I think I would need more context. I mean if its only been "elevator talk" (that is making small talk like, "how about that weather?") that can be boring to people. Sometimes you have be a bit more bold, like you and your wife should come over and have a BBQ or whatever, play board games and have drinks. Then again, some people don't have a personality. You can't expect everyone to respond favorably all the time and just because one person doesn't want your friendship doesn't mean someone else doesn't.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with living a life in solitude, however, how do you really feel about that? Do you really want to be alone? That's a rhetorical question, you do not want to be alone. We are a social species and whether we realize it not, we need relationships. That doesn't mean you have to have close relationships, doesn't mean you need to have a particular number of friends. My sister hangs out with a friend from high school who just happened to end up in the same city she moved to. But that's about it, it's not like she has 20 friends and everyone is throwing parties and shit.
Finally, I think it is totally fine to forget about the people you grew up with that don't want to keep in touch. There's other people in your life or can walk into your life, people you work with, people you interact with in your daily life, people online also count. You do have to put in effort and risk being rejected, it is something many people have a hard time dealing with and that is being rejected. It is very much natural for us to hate the idea of being rejected, dealing with breakups, dealing with being fired or people who don't want to be out friends. The point is carry onward. You have to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and live your life. I don't think for a minute you want to live the rest of your days being alone.
A lot of people in my life have come and gone, sometimes you grow apart or just have a falling out for various reasons. You said that a lot of people come to you when they need money, well there you go. Some people aren't good friends and that's ok. Those aren't the kind of people you want to surround yourself with anyway.
As far as the people you did try to keep in contact with. Well, I think I would need more context. I mean if its only been "elevator talk" (that is making small talk like, "how about that weather?") that can be boring to people. Sometimes you have be a bit more bold, like you and your wife should come over and have a BBQ or whatever, play board games and have drinks. Then again, some people don't have a personality. You can't expect everyone to respond favorably all the time and just because one person doesn't want your friendship doesn't mean someone else doesn't.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with living a life in solitude, however, how do you really feel about that? Do you really want to be alone? That's a rhetorical question, you do not want to be alone. We are a social species and whether we realize it not, we need relationships. That doesn't mean you have to have close relationships, doesn't mean you need to have a particular number of friends. My sister hangs out with a friend from high school who just happened to end up in the same city she moved to. But that's about it, it's not like she has 20 friends and everyone is throwing parties and shit.
Finally, I think it is totally fine to forget about the people you grew up with that don't want to keep in touch. There's other people in your life or can walk into your life, people you work with, people you interact with in your daily life, people online also count. You do have to put in effort and risk being rejected, it is something many people have a hard time dealing with and that is being rejected. It is very much natural for us to hate the idea of being rejected, dealing with breakups, dealing with being fired or people who don't want to be out friends. The point is carry onward. You have to pick yourself up by your bootstraps and live your life. I don't think for a minute you want to live the rest of your days being alone.
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