Choosing to live life in solitude

[IanSaysHi]

You can make good friends at any age. Older family members have done so.

From my personal point of view, my closest friendships are with friends where we may not see each other every week, month, or in some cases only get to see once a year, but when we do meet up we find we continue our conversations, catch ups etc as though no time has passed. There is no pressure and no expectations.

I find the friendships that don’t endure are the ones where someone is very needy and doesn’t like it when I don’t want to do something or have plans with someone else. I had a relatively close friend I had to give up simply because when I moved and changed jobs I was exhausted and didn’t have much free time out of work. In my mind however there was no issue but my friend started asking what they had done wrong / why wasn’t I calling them all the time etc. I explained there was nothing wrong, I just worked different hours but then I started being accused of ghosting and demanded to be told what they had done wrong. This was actually what broke the friendship for me as in my mind, there was no issue and I had explained why I could not contact them every day, and I now felt uncomfortable having the friendship analysed.