I hate playful teasing.

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This story goes with the initials INAM.... Does anyone know what that means?

Well, years back when I went to uni, there weren't very many boys in the language department, but there was one boy with whom I became friends. He'd had a lonely life, orphaned from a single mother and brought up by his aunt, this friend was not really someone I fancied as a boyfriend, but more someone that I had empathy for. At the time one of my best friends, a girl my age, was also a very good partner in studying and I'm pretty sure everyone thought we were going out together since we were always together doing one thing or another. Thus, I don't know if M. ever suspected that I might be gay too. I don't even know if I knew it myself at the time. What I do remember though, was how he used to write these initials, INAM in the corner of his notes and I knew what they meant.
Of course, M. was pretty camp and although he was not out to anyone, and probably quite a shy person at the time, I knew I could probably help him just by telling him I knew what those initials meant. It did. He told me he was gay and was looking for someone to love.
I think at the time there was a disco song out by Grace Jones which bore that name. Maybe that's what set me onto the secret meaning of INAM.
Anyway, the point of the story was that I knew what this boy needed but I wasn't yet prepared to tell him that that was how I also felt at the time. I don't even remember if that was how I felt at the time, it happened a couple of years later, I believe.
So, maybe, TuxSky, your friend is at a point in his life where he can feel some empathy for you but is not in a place where he feels he can do anything about it (because he's also got a girlfriend to take into account), but maybe he'd like to be able to help you out in a more real way than just teasing. For the moment, he may only be able to tease you about it.

If he is a good friend, then surely he will be ready to hear that you don't like being teased about something so sensitive. As Mr Lonely said, you'll have to speak plainly to him about it.
Here's the link to the Youtubes I found of this anthem for all forlorn friends of Dorothy...

Grace Jones: I Need A Man long version


instrumental version


short version


live version

Lyrics :
When I'm feelin' lonely,
Someone telephone me,
It's gettin' hard to pass my time.

Take me out a-dining,
Watch me while I'm smiling,
Baby, it's a waste of time.

I need a man, perhaps a man like you,
I need a man, to make my dreams come true.

Say that you won't find him,
Creeping up behind him,
Ruling round the town all day.

Well, I'm underestimated,
Highly underated,
Can't there be another way?

I need a man, perhaps a man like you,
I need a man, to make my dreams… and I need a man.

And then I won't be feelin' lonely,
Knowing I'm the only one.

He'll understand
All that I'm feelin' deep inside me,
Knowing that at last he's come.

Oh well,oh well
Gettin' tired of lookin',
Wastin' all my cookin,
Ending in a fretful row.

Can somebody tell me,
Say to me, or spell me,
Why I'm feelin' lonely, why oh.

I need a man, perhaps a man like you,
I need a man to make my dreams,
And I need a man.

And then at night I won't be lonely,
Knowing I'm the only one.

He'll understand
All that I'm feelin' deep inside me,
Knowing that at last he's come.

It's maybe that I'm dreaming,
Can't say they I've seen him,
Somehow, I just got to find

Someone outstanding,
Good enough to hand him
All that I've built up in time

I need a man like you, to make my dreams come true,
Perhaps that man is you!