08-17-2012, 09:00 AM
I have this guy that I have been involved with for a while. We at first had a really good relationship but there was this one guy that came into the picture that he was friends with a long time ago. He came back to the area and it wound up being that he would spend more time with him.
He told me that this guy and he are just friends and that he only loves me. But, whenever I am with him he doesn't show the same attention as he does to this other guy. He will tell his other friends "that's my boy," but he never mentions that about me or shows the same kind of importance as he does this other guy. We have talked about it and he says that "Yes, he's my boy, and I love him to death." Why would he make comments to others and to me like that, but he never gives the same kind of importance to me?
He is also one of those guys that doesn't want to tell others about our relationship. I don't even know if you could really call it a relationship. He has admitted that he's bisexual but it took quite a long while for him to admit to it. But in doing so he says that yes he's bisexual, but that the only reason why he is because he's with me and if he didn't have me than he wouldn't be that way. He has gone back and forth on it. It doesn't make sense that he says that he's bisexual but that he wouldn't do anything with another guy.
He has also indicated that he has always wanted to do something with a girl him and another guy. He mentions this long ago friend about doing stuff like I guess they call it a threesome. He never mentioned me in it and so it sounds very obvious that he's into this guy as I have previously stated.
Also, he talks about gay stuff a lot and will mention that he gets it from his other friends. I recently was looking at some of his friends on Facebook and it turns out that he has become friands with a couple guys that are gay. He likes Zac Efron and will mention him quite a bit. Anyhow the strange thing is that just a short time ago this guy who became friends with him has on his profile a pic of Zac Efron. This guy that I have been involved with knows that I am a fan of Chippendales, and Playgirl. This guy on his profile has all of that added too. The guy I have been involved with is on his middle 20's. This guy that he became friends with on Facebook is in his 20's. But, he also has a guy that he became friends with on there that is an older guy like in his 50's. I know that these people wouldn't just randomly send a request as they would have to know him somehow.
My question is this: Is it possible for a guy to have so many relationships with so many people (guys) that he lives a secret life and he acts like he loves so many people but he can't just be with one person? He has been involved with girls but none of them go well and he has one on the side right now but he always says in all of these relationship including mine that nothing is committed. The issue is that I have always been honest with him about who I have been involved with and if I were to do something with another guy besides him. But when it comes to him he doesn't seem to be forthcoming about it. One time he and this guy friend I was talking about earlier had talked about doing a threesome. His guy friend brought a girl up. The only way I found out about it was that the guy friend said something about it. I had asked him prior if anything was going on and he said no. I asked him later on why he didn't tell me the truth and he said it was because I didn't ask him directly. That to me is being deceitful.
I am hurt and I am trying to make sense of all of this. He also keeps saying this phrase, "I am going to shoot," all the time meaning in a sexual way. He said he heard it from a guy. He randomly says this quite a bit. One last thing, he recently got a tatoo with a number. The number of the tatoo is "13." I asked him why he got that for a tatoo and he said it is because it is how bid he is as far as his dick. What do you make of that comment?
I don't want to be played with and need to get some input from others and my instinct is telling me that there's more going on than he is saying, and that he is probably involved with a lot of guys, but if that's the case how does one go about being able to live that kind of life? Has anyone else had a guy that had any of these similar behaviours? Thank you. I really need to know what to make of all of it and look forward to your responses.
He told me that this guy and he are just friends and that he only loves me. But, whenever I am with him he doesn't show the same attention as he does to this other guy. He will tell his other friends "that's my boy," but he never mentions that about me or shows the same kind of importance as he does this other guy. We have talked about it and he says that "Yes, he's my boy, and I love him to death." Why would he make comments to others and to me like that, but he never gives the same kind of importance to me?
He is also one of those guys that doesn't want to tell others about our relationship. I don't even know if you could really call it a relationship. He has admitted that he's bisexual but it took quite a long while for him to admit to it. But in doing so he says that yes he's bisexual, but that the only reason why he is because he's with me and if he didn't have me than he wouldn't be that way. He has gone back and forth on it. It doesn't make sense that he says that he's bisexual but that he wouldn't do anything with another guy.
He has also indicated that he has always wanted to do something with a girl him and another guy. He mentions this long ago friend about doing stuff like I guess they call it a threesome. He never mentioned me in it and so it sounds very obvious that he's into this guy as I have previously stated.
Also, he talks about gay stuff a lot and will mention that he gets it from his other friends. I recently was looking at some of his friends on Facebook and it turns out that he has become friands with a couple guys that are gay. He likes Zac Efron and will mention him quite a bit. Anyhow the strange thing is that just a short time ago this guy who became friends with him has on his profile a pic of Zac Efron. This guy that I have been involved with knows that I am a fan of Chippendales, and Playgirl. This guy on his profile has all of that added too. The guy I have been involved with is on his middle 20's. This guy that he became friends with on Facebook is in his 20's. But, he also has a guy that he became friends with on there that is an older guy like in his 50's. I know that these people wouldn't just randomly send a request as they would have to know him somehow.
My question is this: Is it possible for a guy to have so many relationships with so many people (guys) that he lives a secret life and he acts like he loves so many people but he can't just be with one person? He has been involved with girls but none of them go well and he has one on the side right now but he always says in all of these relationship including mine that nothing is committed. The issue is that I have always been honest with him about who I have been involved with and if I were to do something with another guy besides him. But when it comes to him he doesn't seem to be forthcoming about it. One time he and this guy friend I was talking about earlier had talked about doing a threesome. His guy friend brought a girl up. The only way I found out about it was that the guy friend said something about it. I had asked him prior if anything was going on and he said no. I asked him later on why he didn't tell me the truth and he said it was because I didn't ask him directly. That to me is being deceitful.
I am hurt and I am trying to make sense of all of this. He also keeps saying this phrase, "I am going to shoot," all the time meaning in a sexual way. He said he heard it from a guy. He randomly says this quite a bit. One last thing, he recently got a tatoo with a number. The number of the tatoo is "13." I asked him why he got that for a tatoo and he said it is because it is how bid he is as far as his dick. What do you make of that comment?
I don't want to be played with and need to get some input from others and my instinct is telling me that there's more going on than he is saying, and that he is probably involved with a lot of guys, but if that's the case how does one go about being able to live that kind of life? Has anyone else had a guy that had any of these similar behaviours? Thank you. I really need to know what to make of all of it and look forward to your responses.
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