08-07-2016, 08:55 PM
Does anyone have any helpful advice to offer? I find myself struggling to sleep when I stay over with someone. It's the first person I've slept over with but this is someone I'm seeing rather than just a one-nighter, so there is no issue with trust or feeling comfortable sleeping with them.
I've tried all sorts so far, from cuddling close so there's lots of body contact for reassurance, to keeping distance so it's more like being in my own bed alone, concentrating on breathing in time with him to relax, duvet off so I donât overheat, counting, etc. etc. but I invariably just end up lying there not able to drop off. And on the rare occasion I do fall asleep, I end up waking in the night with a full bladder and having to get out to the toilet, and then not being able to get back to sleep again afterwards.
At home alone in my own bed I donât often have problems with falling asleep and rarely wake in the night. I have dreamt about sharing a bed with somebody I like for so long, and really love everything about it, so it's just so frustrating ending up not being able to sleep! The last couple of times I have been no good for anything else at all the whole rest of the weekend because I've been so tired afterwards (lack of sleep really doesn't suit me!) plus after a mainly sleepless night my morning wood is less sensitive which doesn't help with early morning fun the next day.
Aside from just putting up with it until sharing a bed becomes more of âthe normâ for me and hoping my body adapts, is there anything I could do to help myself?
I've tried all sorts so far, from cuddling close so there's lots of body contact for reassurance, to keeping distance so it's more like being in my own bed alone, concentrating on breathing in time with him to relax, duvet off so I donât overheat, counting, etc. etc. but I invariably just end up lying there not able to drop off. And on the rare occasion I do fall asleep, I end up waking in the night with a full bladder and having to get out to the toilet, and then not being able to get back to sleep again afterwards.
At home alone in my own bed I donât often have problems with falling asleep and rarely wake in the night. I have dreamt about sharing a bed with somebody I like for so long, and really love everything about it, so it's just so frustrating ending up not being able to sleep! The last couple of times I have been no good for anything else at all the whole rest of the weekend because I've been so tired afterwards (lack of sleep really doesn't suit me!) plus after a mainly sleepless night my morning wood is less sensitive which doesn't help with early morning fun the next day.
Aside from just putting up with it until sharing a bed becomes more of âthe normâ for me and hoping my body adapts, is there anything I could do to help myself?
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