08-16-2012, 05:50 AM
I can definitely understand/feel some of what you mention
IAt times I've hated myself for having attractions towards guys (this especially used to be true) but those feelings have faded over the past couple years so I'm now more accepting of myself...on this one I think it just takes time for those negative feelings to go away.
Many nights before falling asleep I have laid there and fantasized/daydreamed about having boyfriend..the 'true boyfriend' daydreams/thoughts aren't really about sex but just someone to cuddle/be close with.
I have zero interest in hookups/one-night stands, and believe in getting to know someone before anything...basically 'friends only' which if the right match would lead to 'more than just friends' then 'fall in love' after that and only then maybe sex (I know old fashioned, and probably won't happen, but makes a nice daydream LOL )
I've never been in a relationship of any type (many reasons, not gonna list them here, since I have in other posts) I'll be officially old (ie: 40) later this year...thats probably the point when I give up on any relationship stuff LOL But in all honesty I for me see nothing wrong with remaining single.
As for your questions:
I have no idea on where to find quality boyfriends, but I think some of the other guys here gave good ideas. Seeing if there is a GLBT center in your city might be a good start (if you feel comfortable going to one). Instead, maybe a hobby-related or sport (depending on your interests) related group?
I'm not into hiking, but I've thought about joining a walking club (and have looked in the past - after multiple google'ings am pretty sure none exist.)
It deff can't hurt to get on google(or one of the others) and search for "GLBT (or Gay)" + "hobby/activity/etc . group/club" + "your city"
IAt times I've hated myself for having attractions towards guys (this especially used to be true) but those feelings have faded over the past couple years so I'm now more accepting of myself...on this one I think it just takes time for those negative feelings to go away.
Many nights before falling asleep I have laid there and fantasized/daydreamed about having boyfriend..the 'true boyfriend' daydreams/thoughts aren't really about sex but just someone to cuddle/be close with.
I have zero interest in hookups/one-night stands, and believe in getting to know someone before anything...basically 'friends only' which if the right match would lead to 'more than just friends' then 'fall in love' after that and only then maybe sex (I know old fashioned, and probably won't happen, but makes a nice daydream LOL )
I've never been in a relationship of any type (many reasons, not gonna list them here, since I have in other posts) I'll be officially old (ie: 40) later this year...thats probably the point when I give up on any relationship stuff LOL But in all honesty I for me see nothing wrong with remaining single.
As for your questions:
Double007 Wrote:Do you think I am gay?Only you can answer the first one, but if you have some attraction towards both women & men (which is kinda the idea I got from your post), then I'd say you are bi.
Can you offer places to find quality men?
Can you offer advice for dating and finding a boyfriend?
I have no idea on where to find quality boyfriends, but I think some of the other guys here gave good ideas. Seeing if there is a GLBT center in your city might be a good start (if you feel comfortable going to one). Instead, maybe a hobby-related or sport (depending on your interests) related group?
pellaz Wrote:-look at joining a gay hiking club,A good idea!
I'm not into hiking, but I've thought about joining a walking club (and have looked in the past - after multiple google'ings am pretty sure none exist.)
It deff can't hurt to get on google(or one of the others) and search for "GLBT (or Gay)" + "hobby/activity/etc . group/club" + "your city"
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