Have you ever felt unlucky in love?

[72jay]

I am the "never say never" opinion when it comes to finding someone, and do totally believe the "there is someone for everyone" saying, but at the same time I see 40 as old and a time to pretty much give up(probably shouldn't but I do)...

I'm not out (don't wish to be. plus even if I wanted to be, can't due to where I live). I'm also fairly shy and not real good with the whole social interaction thing.

As for going into a gay establishment...Yeah its fear/nervousness...
Part of it is ofcourse the risk on being seen inside, and/or going in. (going alone is another big one)
But also going into a bar when you can't/don't drink, what would you do ?


That all said...I had the same fears/feelings of being seen/going alone on this:
I went to the Pridefest's in Denver and Boulder for the 1st time last year
and those feelings totally went away once I arrived even with tons of people there
(in reality a risk I shouldn't take, but since I don't live in either city and really wanted to go I did. I also must say did enjoy it)

I see gay establishment vs the above as being different/more scary LOL
Something like Pridefest you can just go walk around/and watch the bands/entertainment/or whatever, and people probly won't even notice you. But in a bar/club I see it as you're allot closer to others, someone might notice you/you might actually have to interact with someone...
(I'm also totally clueless on anything dating/relationship related or even something as simple as being hit on)

Maybe some of my fears are unfounded like they were with attending Pridefest I don't know.
(this spring I went to the the Denver Pridefest again, and the parade too...while cool to see the parade I won't risk again because I almost ended up outing myself to my mother :eek: I'm somewhat tempted to go to Boulder's Pridefest this fall...but deff gotta be carefull)