Have you ever felt unlucky in love?

[72jay]

72jay...
i used to feel the same way.
i started going out to the different scenes because I started feeling like if I dont put myself in any situations to meet other men who are actually INTERESTED in men, then the chances of finding one would be slim to none. Its basically the whole "cant win the lottery if you dont play" theory.

LOL on your winning the lottery comment. That is something I'd love even more than a relationship (I don't play it anyway)
Maybe the reason I've taken the few risks I have (like going to a couple pride festivals) is something inside of me saying to atleast get out there alittle bit.

I'm glad to hear that you are happy where you are, but in all honesty, you sound similar to what I've told a lot of friends who dont know about me. I used to tell them all the time that I was happy being single, and that I'm not interested in finding anyone, and that I'm entirely too busy with work or whatever to have time for a relationship. These things were really all untrue, for me anyway, and it took a while for me to finally just admit to myself that I was lying about them.

I totally get what you are saying here I am fine with being single, but yeah at the same time I'd love to find someone for a relationship (or even just a close-friendship). The thought of relationship also kinda scares me LOL (especially the thought of breakup/heartbreak, that I doubt very much I could handle).
Not counting shyness/etc about me, just due to where I live would also make any channce of relations(of any type) very difficult..thats kind of another story
I really don't know...one side of me thinks I'm totally ok being single -but- yet another side is I daydream all the time about what it'd be like to have a boyfriend (or on rare occasions girlfriend).

I had JUST moved here to Colorado before Denver's pride festival and didn't really get to go, but I hope to be able to attend one, someday. I think it's awesome that you did go, because yeah, the larger the crowd, the less likely you are to be noticed. Aside from the that, think of how many gay men show up for that. The chances of meeting someone of interest would be most high at one of the events.

Cool.. what do you think of Colorado so far?
Hopefully you weren't near the fire areas earlier this summer :eek:
I can say that there was tons of people at the Denver festival both years I went
Colorado Springs actually has their own pride festival sometime in July (never been so don't know what its like)
Boulder's is mid September this year (went last year, and its much smaller than Denver's) I might go, but I'm also kinda hesitant now...

Anyway, not sure where in Colorado you live, but if you ever find yourself in Springs maybe we can grab a drink! lol

I'm somewhat near Denver, but outside city limits.
If I'm ever headed to the Springs I will let you know...