Think my guy is playing games on me -- need input

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Essentially you want us to magically read his mind or something.

Relationships work with communication. There are a lot of questions here, but you are asking the wrong people, you should be asking him why, wherefore, who, what and all of that.

My crystal ball tells me that this is not really a relationship - at least not a healthy one.

It also tells me that you are half to blame for the confusion and misery of this 'affair' in that you refuse to take the necessary risks of rejection to find the hard core truth of his behaviors.

You need to ask the hard questions of him and get his answers. I strongly suggest you ask them as if you are dropping bombs out of nowhere. His initial response to a sudden 'tough question' will provide you with loads of data to draw from.

And you ask these to his face, not via email, twit, facebook, im, text, even not by a phone call. Be face to face and watch his expressions and body language.

Ultimately you see the writing on the wall, know what time it is, whatever saying you want to throw here. You know him better than we do so you already know what is going on. You just need to confirm it and decide what you are going to do next.