08-24-2012, 06:39 PM
I do have daddy issues - big time daddy issues. Well actually I have parent issues. To say I was abused as a child may be a gross understatement, tortured is perhaps a better word.
Those issues do not make me gay. They do, however, have a strong influence on how I express my gay and the type of men I find attractive.
It took me a few decades and a couple three really bad relationships to figure out that I was attracted to men who were exactly like my father. No I do not mean physically - emotionally, mentally. This leads to my having a self destructive attraction to abusive men. Sort of the moth to the flame thing.
I know that there are a few LGBT who have 'turned' that way - seeking love in the arms of the alternative because of terrible things done to them. It tends to happen a lot more with women (Lesbians) only because women tend to be victimized by men more often and in more terrible ways.
So some are indeed made gay by their parents instead of born gay by biology.
I think the majority of gays do suffer from abuse. No not from their parents, but from society. We have long been persecuted and hated, loathed and subjected to ongoing torture day to day, thus we do have a tendency to have self destructive behaviors and do tend to have more emotional/mental issues. Its not because we are gay, its because of the way we are treated for being gay.
With all of this extra abuse in the mix more gay men may have 'daddy issues' not because dad was a terrible fellow, but because the many representatives of 'dad' in our formative years treated us badly.
Those issues do not make me gay. They do, however, have a strong influence on how I express my gay and the type of men I find attractive.
It took me a few decades and a couple three really bad relationships to figure out that I was attracted to men who were exactly like my father. No I do not mean physically - emotionally, mentally. This leads to my having a self destructive attraction to abusive men. Sort of the moth to the flame thing.
I know that there are a few LGBT who have 'turned' that way - seeking love in the arms of the alternative because of terrible things done to them. It tends to happen a lot more with women (Lesbians) only because women tend to be victimized by men more often and in more terrible ways.
So some are indeed made gay by their parents instead of born gay by biology.
I think the majority of gays do suffer from abuse. No not from their parents, but from society. We have long been persecuted and hated, loathed and subjected to ongoing torture day to day, thus we do have a tendency to have self destructive behaviors and do tend to have more emotional/mental issues. Its not because we are gay, its because of the way we are treated for being gay.
With all of this extra abuse in the mix more gay men may have 'daddy issues' not because dad was a terrible fellow, but because the many representatives of 'dad' in our formative years treated us badly.
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