08-26-2012, 01:05 AM
What I'm saying is that when a person CHOOSES to submit to another, be that to a Dom, a husband, a wife, a significant other, or even a stranger for one hour, the Dominant one takes on a huge resposibility that few I've met outside of the BDSM community, where the information and means to educate ourselves on that exists understand.
For most dominate simply means to rule over with an iron fist, to force whoever submitted to obey no matter what and, that is wrong. To dominate is to accept complete responsibility for the physical, spiritual, mental and sexual welfare of the one who submitted and to be sure their desires, needs, and wants are met at ALL times in ALL areas of their life.
If my sub, told me he wanted to go to college, as his Dom, it's up to me to make that happen for him. If he wanted to work in any profession, again I'd do all I could to make it happen. If his family needed money, I'd do my best to get the money to them. If he needed counseling for anything, I'm paying for it. If he is uncomfortable doing something, no matter how much I might enjoy it, we will not be doing that. If he wants to do something I am not comfortable with, we will do that and I will control myself and make the best of it.
Yes I will correct him when he makes a mistake, much as a parent would correct their child, to teach them, never in anger and never beyond his ability to accept with dignity. If that correction brings him to tears, I will be there to kiss the tears away and reassure him that we are fine relationship wise.
Wives who accept marriage vows like these are submitting to their husbands and, in general I don't think people understand what either submitting or dominating really means and, because of that, they will react to those vows in unhealthy ways and, that is more damaging to the wives that the husbands in this scenario. Husbands will take it as a free licence to beat, curse and otherwise abuse their wives and, wives will think they have to accept that. That is wrong, but it's the mindset this sort of vows promotes.
For most dominate simply means to rule over with an iron fist, to force whoever submitted to obey no matter what and, that is wrong. To dominate is to accept complete responsibility for the physical, spiritual, mental and sexual welfare of the one who submitted and to be sure their desires, needs, and wants are met at ALL times in ALL areas of their life.
If my sub, told me he wanted to go to college, as his Dom, it's up to me to make that happen for him. If he wanted to work in any profession, again I'd do all I could to make it happen. If his family needed money, I'd do my best to get the money to them. If he needed counseling for anything, I'm paying for it. If he is uncomfortable doing something, no matter how much I might enjoy it, we will not be doing that. If he wants to do something I am not comfortable with, we will do that and I will control myself and make the best of it.
Yes I will correct him when he makes a mistake, much as a parent would correct their child, to teach them, never in anger and never beyond his ability to accept with dignity. If that correction brings him to tears, I will be there to kiss the tears away and reassure him that we are fine relationship wise.
Wives who accept marriage vows like these are submitting to their husbands and, in general I don't think people understand what either submitting or dominating really means and, because of that, they will react to those vows in unhealthy ways and, that is more damaging to the wives that the husbands in this scenario. Husbands will take it as a free licence to beat, curse and otherwise abuse their wives and, wives will think they have to accept that. That is wrong, but it's the mindset this sort of vows promotes.
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