08-28-2012, 04:49 AM
Bar none, number one top thing you can do to make yourself drop dead, knock out hot is be self confident.
Think about it, even though you don't even know what I look like, if you saw me slumped over, looking unsure and half afraid, you wouldn't pay me much attention beyond thinking "Poor guy, wonder what's wrong with him."
Now if you saw me with a soft smile, head held level, walking assuredly or confidently leaning on a wall, checking you out as you walked by, you'd notice me and, in a few seconds, you'd have found some feature of mine attractive or, be attracted to my casual confidence.
Now, you look away, unsure and I'll let you go on your way, but you pause and give a confident nod that says "Yeah, you look good but, I'm shy or being discrete." I will come back with "Hi, mind if I walk with you?" And there you go, a chance to get to know me a bit, and I you.
See it really doesn't matter what you look like, what you like to wear, what kind of music you like or anything because somebody out there likes exactly what you are and what you have. If you aren't confident you have something about you every one of the gay men you meet will like, it will show and, everyone likes some one that comes across as confident and having it together, happy just being themselves. So get happy with you and watch what happens, you'll get the looks, the winks, the coy smiles and, the hook ups.
Think about it, even though you don't even know what I look like, if you saw me slumped over, looking unsure and half afraid, you wouldn't pay me much attention beyond thinking "Poor guy, wonder what's wrong with him."
Now if you saw me with a soft smile, head held level, walking assuredly or confidently leaning on a wall, checking you out as you walked by, you'd notice me and, in a few seconds, you'd have found some feature of mine attractive or, be attracted to my casual confidence.
Now, you look away, unsure and I'll let you go on your way, but you pause and give a confident nod that says "Yeah, you look good but, I'm shy or being discrete." I will come back with "Hi, mind if I walk with you?" And there you go, a chance to get to know me a bit, and I you.
See it really doesn't matter what you look like, what you like to wear, what kind of music you like or anything because somebody out there likes exactly what you are and what you have. If you aren't confident you have something about you every one of the gay men you meet will like, it will show and, everyone likes some one that comes across as confident and having it together, happy just being themselves. So get happy with you and watch what happens, you'll get the looks, the winks, the coy smiles and, the hook ups.