08-29-2012, 03:01 PM
I feel alot of empathy for you my friend. You're going thru what almost every "questioning" person has gone thru in their life. The mixed feelings, attractions, fears, conflicts of upbringinging/family/religion with deeply held feelings of attractions.
The solution? TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME! If you look at where you are and what you're dealing with, it's very overwhelming. If i were you, i would try to just break it down into small chunks and focus on things you DO have control over. Are you in college? If so, i would focus more on that right now - that's a critical part of your life no mattter if you're gay/bi or str8. Are you out of school and working towards a career? Again, having a good job where you can be financially independant is also key to overall happiness - no matter your orientation.
Life has a way of working these things out if you let it just happen. Trying to "force" something just to have something happen isn't always the best thing. Rather, if you let go of your need to "know" your orientation, and just be YOU - might be the best path right now.
Of course, if you have access to some counseling, that would be really helpful, but that depends on health insurance and if there are counselors in your area with experience in workign with young folks and "sexual orientation issues" - but if thats something that you can take advantage of - i would!
I would also look to see if there are any gay support groups in your area. Many cities and towns have group meetings where folks just like you get together to talk and listen and support each other - and sometimes just knowing you're NOT THE ONLY ONE going thru this is helpful!
keep us updated!
The solution? TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME! If you look at where you are and what you're dealing with, it's very overwhelming. If i were you, i would try to just break it down into small chunks and focus on things you DO have control over. Are you in college? If so, i would focus more on that right now - that's a critical part of your life no mattter if you're gay/bi or str8. Are you out of school and working towards a career? Again, having a good job where you can be financially independant is also key to overall happiness - no matter your orientation.
Life has a way of working these things out if you let it just happen. Trying to "force" something just to have something happen isn't always the best thing. Rather, if you let go of your need to "know" your orientation, and just be YOU - might be the best path right now.
Of course, if you have access to some counseling, that would be really helpful, but that depends on health insurance and if there are counselors in your area with experience in workign with young folks and "sexual orientation issues" - but if thats something that you can take advantage of - i would!
I would also look to see if there are any gay support groups in your area. Many cities and towns have group meetings where folks just like you get together to talk and listen and support each other - and sometimes just knowing you're NOT THE ONLY ONE going thru this is helpful!
keep us updated!
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