Leave someone who is untidy?

[ChadCoxRox]

Hi all. Just a quick one... If you love someone and it just so happens they were a little untidy...like their house is a little scruffy and they are not very good at cleaning... Could you see yourself falling out with them over this?
Asking because of something I heard from s friend and want to see reactions from you lot.
Can it really be love if someone could quit because of such things?

For me it depends on how you're willing to deal with it if I am unhappy in any prolonged untidiness. Are you willing to step up yourself or pay someone to do it for you? If so, what's the big deal? It's no big deal until it becomes a big deal. Here's my favorite quote that might help explain the complexities of allowing relationships to grow and/or change to meet personal needs:

Eric Fromm said: "Happiness is a man's greatest achievement. It is the response of his total personality to a productive orientation toward himself and the world outside."

If a relationship is productive, the "little things" that might not seem important can still receive just enough productive attention to REMAIN "little things". Some people can read a pattern very quickly while some cannot. I could see someone "over judging" the matter and vice versa, so your post does not provide enough information to make a fair decision for feedback without being presumptuous.

Lastly, in my experience, there is a great deal of efficacy in the tenets of Feng Shui and they can be very helpful in understanding compatibility issues in relationships. Then again, I can't afford to pay someone to wash my dishes and I'm tired and do not feel like washing them myself, so if my bf can't deal with them sitting there another moment he'd "best" run some water and ask me to join in or at worst resent the matter and let it affect our relationship.