09-04-2012, 08:36 AM
Sorry kid, you can't make anyone love you. Nor can you change people.
You can change yourself though - no I don't mean go out and be 'the man' get married having 2.5 kids, 3.5 vehicles and all of those proper statistics. That would be the wrong way to go.
You can try to change how you feel about how dad is. Part of that is accepting the things (and people) you can't change for who and what they are.
Eventually you are going to tell dad, and you are going to want dad to accept you the way YOU are... That's going to be a two way street.
Go ahead, make his day - tell him you love him more often - and don't feel guilty about it. Smile at him a little more often and tell him (even if he isn't saying it) 'Dad, I know you love me too.'
Watch carefully, a hint of a smile may touch upon his lips, a subtle wink - some minor show of affection will glimmer through that tough armor plate that he learned to grow long, long before you were a sparkle in his eye.
It is hard for many men to show emotions. That doesn't mean we don't feel - it only means that for some reason, be it the pressure of society telling us what a man is supposed to be, or be it a form of protection from deep hurt, we grow armor plate. That is only a covering, inside we feel much.
I doubt you are a disappointment to him. If he is riding you ass hard that only means he knows you can do better, be more, achieve things that he only dreams he could have achieved. Dads do that, expect more of and FOR their kids then they did/had.
The opposite of love is not anger or being hard nosed. Being angry with, or hard nosed with, or pushing at, or arguing with a person means you care.
The real opposite of love is indifference. Indifference means you don't care.
I suspect your dad does care - a lot, and only wants for you what he believes is best.
You can change yourself though - no I don't mean go out and be 'the man' get married having 2.5 kids, 3.5 vehicles and all of those proper statistics. That would be the wrong way to go.
You can try to change how you feel about how dad is. Part of that is accepting the things (and people) you can't change for who and what they are.
Eventually you are going to tell dad, and you are going to want dad to accept you the way YOU are... That's going to be a two way street.
Go ahead, make his day - tell him you love him more often - and don't feel guilty about it. Smile at him a little more often and tell him (even if he isn't saying it) 'Dad, I know you love me too.'
Watch carefully, a hint of a smile may touch upon his lips, a subtle wink - some minor show of affection will glimmer through that tough armor plate that he learned to grow long, long before you were a sparkle in his eye.
It is hard for many men to show emotions. That doesn't mean we don't feel - it only means that for some reason, be it the pressure of society telling us what a man is supposed to be, or be it a form of protection from deep hurt, we grow armor plate. That is only a covering, inside we feel much.
I doubt you are a disappointment to him. If he is riding you ass hard that only means he knows you can do better, be more, achieve things that he only dreams he could have achieved. Dads do that, expect more of and FOR their kids then they did/had.
The opposite of love is not anger or being hard nosed. Being angry with, or hard nosed with, or pushing at, or arguing with a person means you care.
The real opposite of love is indifference. Indifference means you don't care.
I suspect your dad does care - a lot, and only wants for you what he believes is best.
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