09-06-2012, 04:16 PM
Don't blame yourself. You obviously saw some things you liked in him, and being a good hearted person that's willing to give others the benefit of the doubt, you allowed yourself to rationalize the signs that you now know should have cued you in that you were his "strange."
Keep the good memories and, the lessons learned, you'll be less likely to be in that position again. Don't let it ruin your ability or willingness to trust, just know that you will need to be a bit more cautious about it next time.
That's what life does to us, we get older, go through a few relationships that go south for some of the worst reasons. We beat ourselves up for a while, learn a lot and come through it a little older, wiser and a bit more jaded. It's up to us as individuals not to let those things sour us on love or life.
For now, take the time to be good to yourself, do something special for you. Even if that's just a long bath with your favorite bath salts and your favorite music. Maybe a trip to Starbucks is the thing, maybe an afternoon window shopping. Whatever it is, just do something for you and only you that makes you feel good.
Keep the good memories and, the lessons learned, you'll be less likely to be in that position again. Don't let it ruin your ability or willingness to trust, just know that you will need to be a bit more cautious about it next time.
That's what life does to us, we get older, go through a few relationships that go south for some of the worst reasons. We beat ourselves up for a while, learn a lot and come through it a little older, wiser and a bit more jaded. It's up to us as individuals not to let those things sour us on love or life.
For now, take the time to be good to yourself, do something special for you. Even if that's just a long bath with your favorite bath salts and your favorite music. Maybe a trip to Starbucks is the thing, maybe an afternoon window shopping. Whatever it is, just do something for you and only you that makes you feel good.