Need advice about coming out

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I think you should take your chance to go, and have some measure of financial stability through the move. Distance will make it a little easier.

I do think you are headed for a major family rejection here, and that is one of the hardest things to instigate. And make no mistake, it is you who will instigate it. While it's their choice to react as they do, you will come out knowing full well their views on homosexuality. I think you need to do, you have to be true to yourself and, learn to love the real you and, you can't do that if you are living a lie.

As hard as that is going to be, that isn't the hardest part of coming out under family rejection, even loosing them isn't the worst of it. It's what your own mind will do to you in the aftermath that's the hardest. The self blame, guilt and even self hatred. The one advantage you have over me is that now, you know it's coming and, you will be ready to minimize it and work through it a lot faster than I did.

Learn to love you, take care of you, and be the best you that you can be, then you will be the best partner for the man you find to love that you can be. No life will never be perfect, but it's a lot better when you are doing your best to be who you really are - go for it, be ready for the aftermath and, know that you can and will get through it all, and come out honestly you, and stronger and happier than you are now.