Need advice about coming out

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I would reach out to your cousin and, in fact come out to him. He knows what it's like, and he won't out you before you out yourself. We all understand that and, few would ever do that to anyone. No code of course, but it's understood you just don't do that unless you are a complete ass, or say the one you are being a safety net for endangers his life and you have to out him to get him the help he needs.