Need advice about coming out

[pellaz]

use caution as anyone would do. Dont make the move only because you want to get away from your parents but rather because it could be exciting, more opportunity. The change has got to be stable, especially in this economy.

If your self supporting, no big inheritance, not a work issue, its time to take your life forward. If you are out to your self get that boy friend you want. Start by being clear to your self who you are. Find new gay affirming friends. Tell your friends your gay, some will drop out but being gay is no big deal these days. Tell your mother.

you dont owe your parents anything if they are not able to support you emotionally. It amazes me how parents can live with their child for 20 years and not know he she is gay. I actually think they know. I am really thinking along the lines they are un sure about their own sexuality and need to hide under stringent religion and strong guide lines in order to raise the family with success. Your parents are only human and something for them has failed or never been there. Your not the bad.