09-11-2012, 06:03 PM
Your actually in a much better position that a lot of younger guys who are contemplating coming out.
You have your own home, your in a great job and you have a circle of social friends. As a last resort you even have the option to move away and make a fresh start. A lot of younger guys who are making the decision to come out, also have to figure in the possibility of being kicked out of the family home with no financial support which adds tremendous pressure on whether to come out or not.
Regardless of what anyone else says here in the forum, only you can make the decision on when's the right time to come out. There is no hard and fast rule, and you dont get any less gay the longer you delay making that decision :biggrin:
I guess the important thing is that you have some kind of support around you, just in case things go horribly wrong. Your cousin is certainly one option, but you should probably be honest and open with him, assuming that you can trust him not to go talking to your immediate family before you have the chance to. The other option is to decide on whether you have a close friend within your current social circle that you can confide in. Your probably around your friends much more that your parents, so I would give some thought to possibly coming out to one (or more) of them before tackling the parents. You don't mention if you have any brothers or sisters. They are also a good starting point before parents.
If you decide to jump in at the deep end so to speak, consider a hart to hart with mum first when dads not around. I think you will find that most people on here have told mum first (who then usually says I already knew!) which has at least provided some support to tell their dad.
Whatever you do, only do it when your ready. Once the genie is out that particular bottle there is no going back.
Good Luck
mile:
You have your own home, your in a great job and you have a circle of social friends. As a last resort you even have the option to move away and make a fresh start. A lot of younger guys who are making the decision to come out, also have to figure in the possibility of being kicked out of the family home with no financial support which adds tremendous pressure on whether to come out or not.
Regardless of what anyone else says here in the forum, only you can make the decision on when's the right time to come out. There is no hard and fast rule, and you dont get any less gay the longer you delay making that decision :biggrin:
I guess the important thing is that you have some kind of support around you, just in case things go horribly wrong. Your cousin is certainly one option, but you should probably be honest and open with him, assuming that you can trust him not to go talking to your immediate family before you have the chance to. The other option is to decide on whether you have a close friend within your current social circle that you can confide in. Your probably around your friends much more that your parents, so I would give some thought to possibly coming out to one (or more) of them before tackling the parents. You don't mention if you have any brothers or sisters. They are also a good starting point before parents.
If you decide to jump in at the deep end so to speak, consider a hart to hart with mum first when dads not around. I think you will find that most people on here have told mum first (who then usually says I already knew!) which has at least provided some support to tell their dad.
Whatever you do, only do it when your ready. Once the genie is out that particular bottle there is no going back.
Good Luck
mile:
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