09-11-2012, 09:32 AM
First of all welcome to the forum...
It's never an easy path to take when your discovering new things about yourself, considering family and friends.
Take it as just yet another chapter in your huge book and just enjoy yourself.
Now I'd like to say that "friends with benefits" always work out but truthfully they don't, one or the other generally develops stronger feelings towards the other "friend" and that I've found can lead to awkward moments and just plain instability.
But by all means if that's the path you want to take go for it.
Just because his "out" doesn't mean you have to be timid or held back, just at the start of this year I was still "closeted" scared to revile my true self to the world until I told two good friends but there also gay so I knew they where going to still accept me either way but just by doing that took a huge relief of my shoulders and then I started with other friends and now I'm up to the family part and can't wait until this "coming out stage" is all done and dusted.
As for a 12 year age difference between the both of you that's not that much of a difference.
The man I'm madly in love with is now 21 years older than me.
I see him Atleast 3-4 times a week, we hang out, have fun, go places together all you have to do is find something that links the both of you together ie. common interests etc.
We've slowly been integrating each other into our "circle of friends" and so far it's been great we've only had positive experiences so far.
As to how to form a friendship outside of the bedroom just slowly take an interest into his life ask small but subtle questions and slowly start sending him txts,emails what ever just get that spark going and all will follow with time.
It took well just over 7 months for the man I'm currently seeing to being more open to me and the idea of doing things outside of the bedroom an I can't complain I'm loving every single moment of it.
Just take it slow, be nice and if it's meant to be it will all fall nicely into place.
It's never an easy path to take when your discovering new things about yourself, considering family and friends.
Take it as just yet another chapter in your huge book and just enjoy yourself.
Now I'd like to say that "friends with benefits" always work out but truthfully they don't, one or the other generally develops stronger feelings towards the other "friend" and that I've found can lead to awkward moments and just plain instability.
But by all means if that's the path you want to take go for it.
Just because his "out" doesn't mean you have to be timid or held back, just at the start of this year I was still "closeted" scared to revile my true self to the world until I told two good friends but there also gay so I knew they where going to still accept me either way but just by doing that took a huge relief of my shoulders and then I started with other friends and now I'm up to the family part and can't wait until this "coming out stage" is all done and dusted.
As for a 12 year age difference between the both of you that's not that much of a difference.
The man I'm madly in love with is now 21 years older than me.
I see him Atleast 3-4 times a week, we hang out, have fun, go places together all you have to do is find something that links the both of you together ie. common interests etc.
We've slowly been integrating each other into our "circle of friends" and so far it's been great we've only had positive experiences so far.
As to how to form a friendship outside of the bedroom just slowly take an interest into his life ask small but subtle questions and slowly start sending him txts,emails what ever just get that spark going and all will follow with time.
It took well just over 7 months for the man I'm currently seeing to being more open to me and the idea of doing things outside of the bedroom an I can't complain I'm loving every single moment of it.
Just take it slow, be nice and if it's meant to be it will all fall nicely into place.
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