Friends with benefits

[EvenOlderButWiser]

As an ice breaker so to speak, why don't you just ask him on a date - coffee, movie, dinner and see what his reaction is. If he's positive about meeting outside the bedroom and your clear that it may NOT lead to the sex, then at least the idea isn't out in left field.

You can always choose somewhere out of town, so the pressure of being seen doesn't cramp your style.

Keep us posted, and good luck