09-23-2012, 09:03 PM
I've got to go with Bowyn on this. You are responsible here. Own it, admit it to yourself and to him, apologize sincerely then, back off and move on. Don't try to comfort him, get out, give him the space he needs, even if he is reluctant to take it, to move on and get past you.
He was 18, this is probably the first time he's really fallen hard, and you used his innocents for 2.5 months. Yeah it happened to most of us and, a lot of us have probably done just what you did but, that's no excuse and, it does not lessen what you did.
You want to know what that does to a person? Just take a look at at least two of us here that have been burned repeatedly. I doubt either of us will EVER trust any partner 100% again. They say "I love you and, I'll be true to you." We snap back with "Prove it, I'll believe it when I see it."
As the saying goes - once burned, twice shy. Well you've made him twice shy and, trust me, that just multiples if he gets burned by some else in the future. Nice chain reaction to start there.
He was 18, this is probably the first time he's really fallen hard, and you used his innocents for 2.5 months. Yeah it happened to most of us and, a lot of us have probably done just what you did but, that's no excuse and, it does not lessen what you did.
You want to know what that does to a person? Just take a look at at least two of us here that have been burned repeatedly. I doubt either of us will EVER trust any partner 100% again. They say "I love you and, I'll be true to you." We snap back with "Prove it, I'll believe it when I see it."
As the saying goes - once burned, twice shy. Well you've made him twice shy and, trust me, that just multiples if he gets burned by some else in the future. Nice chain reaction to start there.
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