07-19-2014, 07:25 PM
Hi guys,
I need advice from a third party with no personal interest in the issue.
I recently started acting out on my gay side (bisexual). I must say I kinda went overboard the first year. I was on Grindr, Manjam and Craigslist so the sex was constant. I got attached to a few people but wasn't expecting anything off it like a relationship or even any commitment. I was just having fun.
Ultimately, I got tired and since I was not interested in moving any further than just sex, I decided to cool off with being gay for a while to decide what I really want.
After I made this decision, I met this guy. We didn't meet in the way I usually meet guys. We met for a business lunch. I didn't know he was gay until he started hitting on me. I thought he was nice, good-looking, articulate. I must admit I kind of already had a guy-crush on him before we met because he's so young and already very accomplished.
When he started hitting on me, I didn't respond immediately because he's very flirtatious, hits on everyone. Already we had problems with his communication, I had been told even before we had this meeting that he was very busy so I tried not to let it bother me. Sometimes, I would call him and he would just pick up, other times I would ring for ages and he wouldn't answer and not call back. I've also seen him do this to other people when were together. I would make plans with him on the spot and he would be all for it.
On the seventh date, we kissed. Then he had to leave the country. The first two weeks or so, I would message him and he would answer with 'I miss you' and stuff. The communication got less and less frequent. The love talks are almost non-existent now and we talk like acquaintances when we do get to talk. He's stopped liking my posts on Facebook and Instagram. I've asked him if anything is wrong, he sounded surprised that I would even ask.
Is all this a sign? Should I be bothered? I must admit, I really like this guy. He told me communication was a problem he had with his ex as well. Truth though is I don't think he is 100% honest. They were lies he told when we first met but I figured these were lies that he would reveal when he got more comfortable with me but he's decided to stick to them. Should I move on?
I need advice from a third party with no personal interest in the issue.
I recently started acting out on my gay side (bisexual). I must say I kinda went overboard the first year. I was on Grindr, Manjam and Craigslist so the sex was constant. I got attached to a few people but wasn't expecting anything off it like a relationship or even any commitment. I was just having fun.
Ultimately, I got tired and since I was not interested in moving any further than just sex, I decided to cool off with being gay for a while to decide what I really want.
After I made this decision, I met this guy. We didn't meet in the way I usually meet guys. We met for a business lunch. I didn't know he was gay until he started hitting on me. I thought he was nice, good-looking, articulate. I must admit I kind of already had a guy-crush on him before we met because he's so young and already very accomplished.
When he started hitting on me, I didn't respond immediately because he's very flirtatious, hits on everyone. Already we had problems with his communication, I had been told even before we had this meeting that he was very busy so I tried not to let it bother me. Sometimes, I would call him and he would just pick up, other times I would ring for ages and he wouldn't answer and not call back. I've also seen him do this to other people when were together. I would make plans with him on the spot and he would be all for it.
On the seventh date, we kissed. Then he had to leave the country. The first two weeks or so, I would message him and he would answer with 'I miss you' and stuff. The communication got less and less frequent. The love talks are almost non-existent now and we talk like acquaintances when we do get to talk. He's stopped liking my posts on Facebook and Instagram. I've asked him if anything is wrong, he sounded surprised that I would even ask.
Is all this a sign? Should I be bothered? I must admit, I really like this guy. He told me communication was a problem he had with his ex as well. Truth though is I don't think he is 100% honest. They were lies he told when we first met but I figured these were lies that he would reveal when he got more comfortable with me but he's decided to stick to them. Should I move on?