09-23-2012, 09:21 PM
Look, every time you show him compassion or empathy, you are fueling that flicker of love he still has for you. Quit trying to help. Let him know you are sorry, but remind him that you are not good for him and, that he needs to stop trying to lean on you and, move on with his life.
Don't be the nice guy here, a little tough love is in order, make him sort it out in his way, on his time.
Yes it's harsh, but it's what's best for him at this point. Continuing to attempt to comfort him is only dragging him further through the muck you already left for him to clean up. He's still depending on you for comfort and support, and that isn't good - you're the elder here so, it's up to you to break that off and, let him find himself and, his own strength.
Don't be the nice guy here, a little tough love is in order, make him sort it out in his way, on his time.
Yes it's harsh, but it's what's best for him at this point. Continuing to attempt to comfort him is only dragging him further through the muck you already left for him to clean up. He's still depending on you for comfort and support, and that isn't good - you're the elder here so, it's up to you to break that off and, let him find himself and, his own strength.
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