09-23-2012, 09:22 PM
Counselor Wrote:So is it better to let him know he's not dead to me, or to let him wallow?
I'd go with East's splendid suggestion to be totally honest. Think about what you haven't told him, presumably not to hurt his feelings. When you talk to him, really listen to what he has to say. Then ask him to really listen to you. You may need someone else in the room to help you not get at each other's throats pointlessly.