I'm not worth this much energy

[Counselor]

I'd go with East's splendid suggestion to be totally honest. Think about what you haven't told him, presumably not to hurt his feelings. When you talk to him, really listen to what he has to say. Then ask him to really listen to you. You may need someone else in the room to help you not get at each other's throats pointlessly.

We aren't nasty to each other, and we're still talking. I've been trying to avoid hanging out with him "for old time's sake", so that we have a clear line drawn. Every time he sends a text that says "i want to cuddle", or something similar, I ask him if he thinks it's a good idea, or if he usually cuddles with his ex after a break-up. I try to make him answer with his own conclusions and not taking any actions I think will make things worse.