I'm not worth this much energy

[Zennyboy]

Sorry if this seems imposing Counselor and you can refuse to answer this question, but how long have you been married to your wife?

As for the lad, i was once strung along, lured into the sense of love by someone else once before, not my proudest moment ill tell you, specially when common sense prevailed. Love is like electricity. It can be thunder struck or man made, and imo thunder struck is the best, man made makes complications.

Because with man made love, things go to shite. cuse my language. He is a young man that will latch on the closest sign of affection by the sounds of thing, and since you gave it to him he latched onto you, and whatever good times you two had, they reside vividly in his mind as some of the greatest moments of his life so far.

It breaks people hearts to be blunt and honest with them, sometimes for their own good, its best.

Now i have a friend who was married for 30 years, and sat in the closet all that time, he has two lovely kids, and when he decided to come clean it ripped his world apart, his kids disowned him, his wife wasted no time filing a divorce, however good news he is recovering well now and getting on with life in the way he was longing for.

My only advice to you is this, your treading on egg shells, one false step and you might find your world around you crumble and you havent done any favours for yourself. But i do understand the position you sit in, so becareful, and be ready, because painful times have or will be coming.