I'm not worth this much energy

[Counselor]

You had the wise sense not to take up the offer from DC who sounds like whoever he is in a relationship with, this behaviour will repeat itself. As for Teddy, there must of been the reasons why you two are not together. It's easy to forget these reasons when you have split and you sometimes just remember the good times and not the bad....... A break between couples will either seal the break or you will start to miss him which sounds like you perhaps are. Maybe a meet up where you can just talk and express your feelings.

I think part of what made me miss him was that I hadn't realized some relationships can be so difficult, but it was actually simple with him. I've been a lot more open and direct with him since this, and we've been discussing whether or not we should try again.

So do you thin k there is a higher chance of it working or not working were you to get back with Teddy?

I'm not sure. I'm starting to think I have a problem with commitment in my relationships, if I haven't made that obvious already. I know he wants to try again, and I think we would be better.

Will you make the effort to really know him, know what he needs to help him grow and improve as a person in all aspects of his life?

The first part, definitely. I've gotten to know him better than I did while we were together in the time we've been apart, actually. He's stronger than I give him credit for.
The second part, however, sounds closer to parenting than I think I'd like to get, but I don't mind supporting his choices.

Will you take full responsibility for making your relationship work?
Will he do the same?

I know he will, he invested himself fully into it without even knowing me very well.
I don't know if I'm prepared to do the same thing, though, which is part of why I'm hesitating to start again. He asks me "how long until you know?" and the only answer I can give is "I don't know." I don't have a calendar for falling in love.