09-29-2012, 06:38 PM
Massage, use a finger for a while then two fingers for a while, then three fingers for a while.... I think its called 'finger f**king'.
As for real sex....
Mutual masturbation where you both take each other to hand... that is REAL sex.
Oral - its real - its sex - its real sex.
Anal sex is not the only form of 'real sex'. In fact its highly possible that a majority of gay men, if they were fully honest with themselves, do not like or want anal sex.
I have read polls where about 2/3rds or 3/4 of gay men do not like anal sex (giving or receiving) and most actually prefer oral with the position 69 being the leading most desired position.
Especially in the era of HIV/AIDS with the general understanding that oral sex is much safer than anal sex.
Do a little research, there are a lot of gay males who do not like anal:
http://www.google.com/#hl=en&output=sear...22&bih=859
Porn movies have done a lot of damage, showing gay men starting out with oral and it always moving to anal. That is largely based on the bigotry that calls us fudge-packers. The reality is that bigots pretty much have created this false dichotomy that to be gay and sexually active you have to like anal penetration.
Physically he may be unable to enjoy anal sex - ever. Or never.
Some men have a too sensitive prostate and its a painful thing no matter how long, how slow, how 'correct' your moves are, it does nothing but cause pain.
It may be that you two will have to just do oral sex, mutual masturbation and other things - it is all good.
As for real sex....
Mutual masturbation where you both take each other to hand... that is REAL sex.
Oral - its real - its sex - its real sex.
Anal sex is not the only form of 'real sex'. In fact its highly possible that a majority of gay men, if they were fully honest with themselves, do not like or want anal sex.
I have read polls where about 2/3rds or 3/4 of gay men do not like anal sex (giving or receiving) and most actually prefer oral with the position 69 being the leading most desired position.
Especially in the era of HIV/AIDS with the general understanding that oral sex is much safer than anal sex.
Do a little research, there are a lot of gay males who do not like anal:
http://www.google.com/#hl=en&output=sear...22&bih=859
Porn movies have done a lot of damage, showing gay men starting out with oral and it always moving to anal. That is largely based on the bigotry that calls us fudge-packers. The reality is that bigots pretty much have created this false dichotomy that to be gay and sexually active you have to like anal penetration.
Physically he may be unable to enjoy anal sex - ever. Or never.
Some men have a too sensitive prostate and its a painful thing no matter how long, how slow, how 'correct' your moves are, it does nothing but cause pain.
It may be that you two will have to just do oral sex, mutual masturbation and other things - it is all good.
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