Need Some Advice

[princealbertofb]

I'm going to second some of the thoughts here, which are that another gay man is likely to understand where the whole ''coming out of the closet'' process comes from and how difficult it is to own up to it even with someone who was honest about being gay from the start. He'd made that journey, presumably, and you weren't ready. It does make things a little complicated when you feel that you lied... But I think he can be sensitive to the fact that you weren't sure.
The part where you have a little leeway in your lie is if you admit that you weren't quite sure when previously asked, nor ready to admit it. I think you'll find that the lie will disappear.

It is slightly annoying when other people sense you are gay before you are even ready to admit it to yourself. It's as if they were jumping the gun. That's my explanation for your tardiness in admitting it.

There's nothing wrong with your private world remaining your private world until you're ready to share it with someone. Whether this will change things between you remains to be seen. Maybe he'll never be more than just a good friend. I rather doubt that he'd be angry at you for not disclosing the news earlier. We all need our right time to be comfortable with the idea. Ok?

And if you admit that this was/is scary and that it was never the right time to put things right, he'll probably also understand. Maybe you need to tell him in a message or letter rather than face to face, which seems to have been difficult for you. He'll have time to process it until you next meet.

Good luck with finally being yourself with him.
Take care.