10-07-2012, 05:41 PM
Thanks for the messages guys.
I think I already know deep down what the outcome should be, its just such a hard thing to face up to, accept and then move on from, especially with our whole social life and group of friends/family being so intertwined
Being 4 months short of my 50th birthday seems to make the prospect of being single a rather ominous cloud on the horizon and is perhaps clouding my usual stance of leading by example!
CCR - I think that while Fred made a good point and made me stop and think, you've actually hit the nail on the head. I have family values and too much self respect to contemplate excusing his behaviour as some kind of mid-life crisis. And Im both older and wiser, I like to think in equal measures.....
Blue - Your absolutely right about the trust thing. It took me a long time (and a lot of soul searching) to restore any trust in him, and that was when I was working mainly in UK with only occasional international trips (and he mainly came with me) To try and do that now when Im actually on international assignment would be a huge strain on the relationship and probably unsustainable even n the short term.
Thanks again guys. The messages do help
I think I already know deep down what the outcome should be, its just such a hard thing to face up to, accept and then move on from, especially with our whole social life and group of friends/family being so intertwined
Being 4 months short of my 50th birthday seems to make the prospect of being single a rather ominous cloud on the horizon and is perhaps clouding my usual stance of leading by example!
CCR - I think that while Fred made a good point and made me stop and think, you've actually hit the nail on the head. I have family values and too much self respect to contemplate excusing his behaviour as some kind of mid-life crisis. And Im both older and wiser, I like to think in equal measures.....
Blue - Your absolutely right about the trust thing. It took me a long time (and a lot of soul searching) to restore any trust in him, and that was when I was working mainly in UK with only occasional international trips (and he mainly came with me) To try and do that now when Im actually on international assignment would be a huge strain on the relationship and probably unsustainable even n the short term.
Thanks again guys. The messages do help