06-18-2013, 06:24 AM
Hello everyone,
I title this one The monogamy minority.
I've been thinking about the topic of monogamy, specifically within the gay community.
The discussion of monogamy in the gay community is surely nothing new but I have a need to express my views/ideas based on my experiences. So hopefully this discussion will spark some constructive debate.
Monogamy is a popular topic amongst both the straight and LGBT community.
This is not a question of the capability of monogamy within the gay community but more in regards to the levels of majority vs. minority.
In my experience based on my location, I find that men my age are more focused on having casual fun than being in a committed monogamous relationship. Of course there are exceptions but I feel it's a high percentage. What do you guys think?
Does monogamy become more of a majority the older the age group?
As much as I would like to glide through this topic without bringing up Hookups or open relationships it's nearly impossible to avoid.
I've made it a mission to talk with people who are focused on hooking up for purely sexual fulfillment. One specific question I asked is if hooking up makes them feel complete.
Most everyone stated that it does not fill the void of loneliness but it keeps them busy and takes care of their sexual needs. The younger generation stated simply that they are young and want to have fun. The pleasures of being young and having fun is likeminded within both the straight and LGBT community.
However is the next transition of growth from hooking up getting into a communicative open relationship?
I found that most men in open relationships are a little older.Talking with them I wanted to understand what a open relationship means to them and from my findings they described they feel emotionally complete with one committed person but allow each other to explore sexually with others.
I noticed that a lot of the people I spoke with in open relationships are not equally exploring sexually. Lots of people would say things like, "I connect with my partner emotionally and we both love each other but my partner likes to have sex with others, so I allow it and am ok with it" Though there is communication and we all know it takes two people to agree to be in this type of relationship but I can't help to wonder.. is it really balanced?
What about teens and young adults who are trying to identify with their sexuality?
Does todays technology have any influence? For example when you type "Gay" into the app store on a smartphone the first things that come up are chat and meet up apps that are basically used for hooking up. Skout, Scruff, Growlr, Guyspy,Mister,Boy Ahoy , Grindr, Adam4Adam, Bender etc..
Does it make a difference?
Is there progress to be done in these area's ?
Are all these various lifestyles and types of relationships balanced amongst one another?
Is monogamy a minority?
Thanks for listening, really looking forward to others views on this topic.
I title this one The monogamy minority.
I've been thinking about the topic of monogamy, specifically within the gay community.
The discussion of monogamy in the gay community is surely nothing new but I have a need to express my views/ideas based on my experiences. So hopefully this discussion will spark some constructive debate.
Monogamy is a popular topic amongst both the straight and LGBT community.
This is not a question of the capability of monogamy within the gay community but more in regards to the levels of majority vs. minority.
In my experience based on my location, I find that men my age are more focused on having casual fun than being in a committed monogamous relationship. Of course there are exceptions but I feel it's a high percentage. What do you guys think?
Does monogamy become more of a majority the older the age group?
As much as I would like to glide through this topic without bringing up Hookups or open relationships it's nearly impossible to avoid.
I've made it a mission to talk with people who are focused on hooking up for purely sexual fulfillment. One specific question I asked is if hooking up makes them feel complete.
Most everyone stated that it does not fill the void of loneliness but it keeps them busy and takes care of their sexual needs. The younger generation stated simply that they are young and want to have fun. The pleasures of being young and having fun is likeminded within both the straight and LGBT community.
However is the next transition of growth from hooking up getting into a communicative open relationship?
I found that most men in open relationships are a little older.Talking with them I wanted to understand what a open relationship means to them and from my findings they described they feel emotionally complete with one committed person but allow each other to explore sexually with others.
I noticed that a lot of the people I spoke with in open relationships are not equally exploring sexually. Lots of people would say things like, "I connect with my partner emotionally and we both love each other but my partner likes to have sex with others, so I allow it and am ok with it" Though there is communication and we all know it takes two people to agree to be in this type of relationship but I can't help to wonder.. is it really balanced?
What about teens and young adults who are trying to identify with their sexuality?
Does todays technology have any influence? For example when you type "Gay" into the app store on a smartphone the first things that come up are chat and meet up apps that are basically used for hooking up. Skout, Scruff, Growlr, Guyspy,Mister,Boy Ahoy , Grindr, Adam4Adam, Bender etc..
Does it make a difference?
Is there progress to be done in these area's ?
Are all these various lifestyles and types of relationships balanced amongst one another?
Is monogamy a minority?
Thanks for listening, really looking forward to others views on this topic.