Are gay men capable of monogamy?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Tom,

Once a cheater..... True...

But it gets complicated.

Especially when you are older, hit a year ending in Zero - 30, 40, 50 and suddenly you feel like you have to stick it out to the bitter end (death).

The more years you invest into the relationship, the harder you try to hold on to that relationship, the more you are willing to let slide because you know its going to be too hard to scrape the board clean and 'start fresh'.

It becomes even harder if you are financially and legally bound up with that person. I'm currently roommates with my ex (its only been a month since the break-up). Why are we roommates? Because we are tied up together with 'stuff'.

And it is not easy to stop loving a person. Having ended other relationships, ones that ended with abuse I can honestly say I didn't stop 'loving' them over night. I might even carry the barest flicker of a flame for them somewhere even though decades have past.

So while your words are rational, I fear that ending a relationship rarely falls into the 'rational' area and there is a lot of emotional baggage and other stuff that makes what seems like a logical solution difficult.