Are gay men capable of monogamy?

[rover330]

Very controversial subject. Let me preface the following with IMHO...

I don't believe men are capable of monogamy. Men have not traditionally been monogamous; men are not programmed to be monogamous by nature. Men are biologically programmed to spread their seed as far and wide as possible to ensure the genetic diversity of the species. I think that biological programming extrapolates to gay men as well.

If you had an agreement for monogamy, may I ask why? I've never understood jealousy, it's not logical; it implies that a partner can never find another man hot, can never appreciate the beauty of anyone but you. Because that would mean you're not attractive to him, right? Wrong. Just because you find someone else attractive does not mean you don't love your partner. Being threatened by that to me just screams insecurity. Having sex with someone other than your partner who you find smoking hot doesn't mean IMHO that you aren't getting enough sex from your partner or you are not attracted to him. He loves you even though he may want to throw down with Taylor Lautner.

Having said that, what would bother me if I were you, number one, the screaming, raising of voices, the disturbance of the peace of your home, that to me would be a dealbreaker. Moving your stuff into the closet is just plain cold, tacky, classless and insulting. Another thing that would hurt me deeply and be a dealbreaker. And why the hell isn't he keeping the house clean? If you're gone and you share a home, expecially if he does not work full time, that house should be spotless when you return.

Check out this youtube clip from Dan Savage.