Seeking Advice from anyone

[archubbycub]

I agree with Blue, for the most part. It sounds like your partner is on a downward spiral of self-destruction and he's sucking you and everyone around him down with him nth is is not good for anyone involved, but especially for both him and you. I don't know if I would go so far as a total separation, but you definitely need to back off, and more than just a little bit. He definitely needs a caring friend, several of them right now, but you CANNOT allow him to drain you physically, mentally, or emotionally at this point. Tough love is hard, on everyone involved. That's why it's called tough love. But you have to take care of yourself, first and foremost, before you can ever take care of yourself. I guess what I'm saying is, be there for him when he needs you, but let him know, in no uncertain terms, that you will no longer enable him to destroy both himself or anyone one else around him. Especially you!